Forgiveness

Holiday season, a time that can conjure up polar opposite feelings dependent on your circumstances. On one hand, a wonderful time spent with family and friends, enjoying each other’s company sharing love, or spent alone in isolation or in a deep seeded sense of self-hatred and pity thinking about what you don’t have or have lost. Often it is a time of self-reflection and analyzing which often causes the regurgitation of negative emotions and it doesn’t have to be.

Forgive yourself. Whatever it is. You can be free.

Whether you betrayed or seriously let down a loved one.

Whether you drank too much and acted out of character.

Whether you lost the love of your life.

Whether you missed a potentially life changing opportunity.

Whether you haven’t achieved what you would have liked so far in life.

Whether you lost that business you worked so hard to build.

Whether you are not with your family at Christmas because of XYZ.

Whether you have lost all this time dwelling on the past and not dealing with the emotions that have kept you grounded to a certain outcome.

Until you forgive yourself, regardless of somebody else forgiving you, you will always be stuck to the feelings and negative emotions associated with the past. You will keep paying the price emotionally over and over again keeping you entrapped and unable to allow happiness and contentment to enter your life. We have an unrealistic expectation that we are perfect and cannot forgive ourselves for not being perfect or what we think we should be reject ourselves. You’re not perfect and you will make mistakes. Carrying around all that weight is only hurting you. You are worthy of forgiveness and love.

It’s in the past and you can’t do anything about it now, look forward, try your best to make amends where you can but be proud of who you are and take the knowledge you have learned to crush it and not make the same mistakes again. There is a whole world out there and by looking backwards about things you cannot change is only keeping you from experiencing potentially amazing things moving forward.

Without self-hatred and pity.

Free.